As the years progressed, the true meaning of a “relationship” has changed for what I believe is the worst.
Men and women have lost the love and compassion that once drove the positivity in the world but, who’s really to blame?
The modern man or woman?
Don’t kill me guys, but even though I believe the answer is both, a bit more of the blame is on us.
With the influence of technology and social media, plus the stresses of life, it’s easy for us to lose sight of what’s really important.
I find us losing track of our woman’s romantic goals, focusing only on our financial responsibilities and ignoring what’s most important.
With that said, I’d like to share a few personal goals that I wish I used, some that aided my relationships in the past, and a few suggestions from my colleagues.
Time: As simple as it may sound, time is one of the top reasons relationships fail. Whether it’s because your tired from work, or just don’t believe it’s that important, time management is one of the most significant keys to a successful relationship.
So be sure to schedule x amount of time either everyday or week that’s set just for you and her. Take a trip together, and take advantage of this time by really learning more about your significant other.
You’ll be surprised what you’ll learn.
This brings me to my next point.
Communication: Before writing this article, I thought long and hard on points I can make that haven’t been stated before and even though I was successful in coming up with a few, communication is just one of those points you can’t overlook.
The beautiful thing is, communication and time are intertwined. It’s impossible to have one without the other and the more you communicate, the stronger the bond between you and your lover will grow.
A stronger friendship will flourish and the more you’ll hate being away, but is being away such a bad thing?
Time apart: I used to absolutely hate being away from my ex(es). Unlike the typical guy I appreciated every second of “us time”, but I’ve now come to realize that “me time” is just as important.
“Time apart makes the heart grow fonder” has to be one of the best ways to put it since, “Missing someone is a part of loving them. If you’re never apart, you’ll never really know how strong your love is.”, right?
Coupled Goals: Yes I know the whole point of this article is setting goals but like I mentioned earlier, we get so lost in our own individual goals that we lose sight on our relationship goals.
Setting these personal goals isn’t necessarily the issue.
Working against or towards opposite goals sometimes is.
Creating goals that are beneficial to you both is crucial in attaining a blissful partnership and the way you achieve such harmony is by aligning your separate and joint goals.
Once this alignment is secured, the options on what can be accomplished are endless.
Note: It’s very important to celebrate when coupled goals are met. Introduce a reward system to keep interest and motivation high. For example, each time a goal is accomplished, reward each other with a shopping spree or a spa day.
Honesty: This one is pretty self-explanatory. As men we know this isn’t always the easiest thing to do but based on my experience, it should be the only option. I come from a background of lying to girlfriends and trust me, the hassle isn’t worth it!
Lies only lead to more lies so start with a clean slate.
After all, she doesn’t want to hound you but if her woman’s intuition is tingling, she’ll only grow insecure of her importance in your life and that’s when the real issues start.
Phone calls, text messages, voicemails!!
I’ve been there but guys, honesty is the best policy.
Be honest with her and I guarantee you’ll have one less thing to worry about.
Physical Improvement: I recently read an article that mentioned this tip & I instantly thought back to my most recent relationship. We had a stretch of about 4-6 months where we’d constantly hit the gym together and during this time things couldn’t be better.
Less arguments and more passion.
More kissing and less fighting.
I’m not sure exactly what did it but focusing on bettering our physics lit a fire under us both and helped us grow even closer.
Well, to sum it up guys, in the words of Dr. Goldsmith, “Creating goals as a couple is one of the most powerful and connecting things you can do.”, so get to it!
The two most important keys to successfully accomplishing your goals is to have fun with your journey and set goals that you both actually get something out of. There is nothing better than sharing your success with the person you love.